Have you ever had a dream and told a friend or family member about it, only to realize that they just had the same dream? Have you listened in awe as a friend recounts your exact dream to you?
There are a few things at work to create this synchronicity. As far as I know, there haven’t been any scientific studies of mutual dreaming, that is, having the same dream as a friend or family member. However, we can approach this from both a scientific angle, as well as a spiritual one.
The brain becomes very active during sleep. Dreams happen during the REM, or rapid eye movement, cycle. The limbic system, something we rewire and retrain for joy in Transformational Healing™, processes your emotions. If you follow my work or have been in private session with me, you know that the amygdala is the fear center of the brain, and can be responsible for the anxious or worried dreams that we experience.
The cortex manages what actually happens in our dreams, including seeing friends, running from enemies and even the experiences of falling or flying. When dreaming, we don’t question HOW it is possible that we are able to fly, mainly because the frontal lobe of the brain is less involved in dreaming.
What we know from anecdotal reports of mutual dreaming is that typically, those having mutual dreams are emotionally close and spend time together. They know each other’s idiosyncrasies and what is on the other’s mind most of the time. Some therapists say that when two people spend a lot of time together, they begin to share subconscious thoughts. I believe this to be true, but I also believe that we as a human collective share subconscious thoughts.
Our subconscious minds are usually where fear and joy are rooted. The subconscious tries to deal with things while we are sleeping that we have been pushing aside during our waking hours. Dying to go swim with the dolphins but unsure of how to make it happen in real life? It might take place in your dreams. Waking up with a start after a bad dream about an ex? Your subconscious is trying to deal with your feelings while you sleep.
What the Guides have shown me about mutual dreaming is that it takes place when the human collective is processing something on a grand scale. The Guides explained to me that when something major is happening to all of us at once, such as the current crisis we find ourselves in, mutual dreaming becomes more intense so that we may share our emotions and experiences with another on a different level than we could if the dream had been ours alone.
Our collective human subconscious is running on fear right now, fueled by horrifying reports in the news daily of climbing virus numbers.
Because of this shared experience, we are all craving more human interaction. We are all wanting to have joint experiences with another person. Mutual dreaming is just one way that our brains have of making that happen, even if it is not possible during waking hours.
Not only do we mutually dream to have more human connection, but the Guides have shown me that it also takes place to plant a signpost, mean to help direct our focus. Did you mutually dream about swimming with dolphins? Take this as a sign. It does not necessarily mean you need to book a dolphin swimming trip right now, but what is the experience a metaphor for? What does it represent in your life? These are the questions to ask yourself if you mutually dream with another.
Then take action on your mutual dream! It would not have been sent to you without a purpose. What was being sent to you for action? Once you decipher it’s meaning, take concrete steps to bring the energy into your life that you have been craving.
If you would like to bring some mutual dreaming into your life, it can be as simple as sending the invitation! As you are falling asleep, ask your Guides to bring you to a place where you can see a friend or family member in your dream, and to send them the same dream.
To hear more about the Guides perspective on rest, check out the podcast episode “The Sirians and Rest,” here.
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